Effective Listening Equals Effective Leadership – Learn How! | Department oF Finance

Effective Listening Equals Effective Leadership – Learn How! | Department oF Finance.


Sometimes life feels too big, remember its all little things

This week has felt very overwhelming to me for unknown reasons. There seems an endless string of things to do and one fail after the other. Everything has been irritating despite the fact the week has been full of non issues that I have trumped up and let get under my skin. So this morning I am huffy and feeling ready to hide and grump. I’m hostile and cranky and fighting with my coworkers for no reason other than I want to be angry (although I outwardly don’t think I want to be angry). Then a light switch. I don’t want to be angry, I hate when my coworkers are upset especially if I feel like I am the source of some of that animosity. I had to stop and take a minute, slow myself down. What was so big? What really had to get done and what was I so stressed out about?

We as a company have been very busy this week with the rains, the busy environment has made it feel hectic in the office. Being busy as a business is good, not only for us as a company but I genuinely feel good about what we as a company do and that we are truly helping our customers lead healthier lives and save money. This hectic business should have made me feel super excited this week, not cranky. As for the mountain of things I had to get done, when I actually sat down to evaluate, the list was just simple things and not near as many as I thought there were. At the time they all seemed urgent but they were not. No one suffered or was adversely affected because I did not get that one thing done.

All week I have little trivial things become mountains in my mind that have affected my mood which then affects the moods and attitudes of those around me. I made my own issues out of nothing…ugh. I can guarantee I am not the only person who has fallen victim to this trap. So many times we let small issues twist us up and let our perception of a situation become bigger and scarier than the actual situation really is. We create stress and tension needlessly. So how do we stop ourselves?

Realizing that we can only accomplish one task at a time is a start. Now I am in no way saying that people do not multi-tasks. You can have more than one thing in the works at a time, but keep in mind you can only complete one thing at a time. When you feel like you have a mountain of things in front of you, prioritize your list. Are their items on the list that have to be completed in a sequence? For some items, can you work them in stages? (I always think about laundry, starting the washer before I go do dishes and then coming back…etc). It makes no sense to stress and obsess about things you can’t accomplish yet. When we break things down to their small components life seems much more manageable. Put one foot in front of the other, take tasks one step at a time.

Don’t let you be the one that trips you up.